Going through my hard drive and found this picture. THIS RING 😫💔
This is my mom’s wedding band & I lost it two years ago somewhere in Marble Falls. I mean, I’m fortunate enough to still have my mother with me but I get so sick when I feel it’s absence.
Maybe ten years ago, I’d gotten into the habit of spending time with my pieces (bags, shoes, earrings, hats, rings) after I take them off to appreciate them. Now that everyone is on the KonMari train, I feel less weird about admitting it (and I’ve committed to flying my freak flag high, anyway.) BUT! In 2009 if my roommate came in on me taking of my favorite belt, giving it a gentle kiss and holding it to my heart with my eyes closed for a minute before putting it in the drawer, she’d just write it off as another weird Ari thing. My things are precious to me- not all of them, of course. But the ones that are have always filled me with love and I try to feel and sit in it as much as possible.
My jewelry collection started as pieces given to me by amazing women in my life (my own mother, a mentor who’d recently returned from a summer abroad with a gift for me, a woman I loved so much more than her son I was with at the time). 🤷🏾♀️ Since then I’ve made sure that every piece that comes into my life is just as special (hence the exclusively #HandmadeJewelry rule that I only break for thrifted treasures, gifts from others and $6 corner store gold hoops 🍾✨💅🏾)
The policy has served me well, but it means that whenever something gets lost, I am devastated. Heart. Broken. (I’m sure my crying in the hotel that I lost the ring in made the staff uneasy🤭) BUT! I try to compose myself by reminding myself that absolutely ✨everything✨ in this world is temporary. And the ephemeral nature of existence makes me just cherish the people (and jewelry) in my life while they’re here. I fucking love the new gold bands I got to ease that loss. and I’ve done a pretty solid job of keeping up with them *knocks on wood* But when their time comes, I’ll probably spill a lot of ink about what they meant to be, too.